Summer has a reputation for being sexy.
Hot weather means skimpier clothing, frolicks on the beach, and holiday romance.
The change in temperatures even makes us hornier – there’s a reason we refer to the summer of love, rather than the winter or autumn.
That’s why it’s pretty cursed that just as sex drives are climbing and there’s more pressure to get hot and heavy, the heat puts a dampener on things.
When it’s really steaming, getting intimate can feel like the last thing you want to do. Even the thought of touching – all sweat and chafing – can make you feel a bit nauseous.
The answer isn’t to accept a season of imposed chastity.
Instead, why not expand your sexual repertoire with some activities that don’t require physical contact?
Mistress Sandy Star, a dominatrix, adult content creator, and OnlyAccounts ambassador, shares her recommendations ahead…
Experiment with sex toys
Here’s something a bit annoying about your partner’s body – it runs warm, so when you’re already struggling in the heat, you won’t want them anywhere near you.
Sex toys don’t have the same issue.
‘You can use them to satisfy yourself or your partner,’ recommends Mistress Sandy. ‘Either way it’ll be hot – but not sweaty.
‘Take turns if you like or go at the same time, nothing is off limits! You can also have fun with sex toys in the bath and shower (if they’re waterproof), meaning you can cool off while you enjoy some great sex.’
Take some sexy pics
‘There’s nothing simpler than snapping some sexy selfies,’ says Sandy. ‘If you don’t want to get too hot and bothered, send some surprising photos to your partner to get them going.
‘Taking confident, beautiful photos will also make you feel good about yourself. Do whatever you feel like, be that masturbating or using sex toys, for example.’
Watch porn together
You don’t need to be in the same room as your partner to do this one. You could watch the same porn and have a FaceTime call, or, if you are cohabiting, just sit apart on the bed with the fan on full blast.
Sandy suggests: ‘When it’s hot outside and you’re not feeling body-to-body contact, porn is a great alternative. Watching it together can be a massive turn-on, especially if you’re masturbating and enjoying being together without actually being on top of each other.’
Enjoy mutual masturbation
‘You don’t need to be watching porn to enjoy mutual masturbation,’ says Sandy. ‘Better yet, you don’t need anything at all.
‘Sit facing each other, exchange some dirty talk (if that’s what you’re into) and really appreciate each other’s bodies.
‘This can be a hugely intimate moment – surprisingly – and might feel much more appealing on a hot day.’
Try phone sex
This isn’t just for long-distance lovers. Getting frisky over the phone – especially if it’s just an audio call, no video – can be loads of fun.
Plus, your partner doesn’t need to know that you have your feet in an ice bath while you’re chatting.
Sandy says: ‘I highly recommend phone sex. Don’t feel stupid if you’re sat in the next room, having some sultry phone sex can be really satisfying.
‘It also adds some mystery as you can’t see what your partner’s getting up to, unless they tell you.’
Play a game
Sandy advises: ‘If full-contact sex isn’t floating your boat, how about playing a sex game? There are loads out there for you to choose from and they’re fun – without the need for any physical contact if you’re just too hot.
‘For example, there are countless games readily available online that’ll teach you to try new things, adding some unexpected kink to your day when you thought sex wasn’t on the cards.’
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